Since I’ve been in my hometown during vacation season, I thought that I would spend a lot of time meeting my friends, catching up on everything and enjoying time together like we used to do. Unfortunately, that did not happen. It took me quite a while, coming to terms with the fact that we all changed. There were so many new people, experiences, opportunities and challenges which shaped us after our graduation and there are many others, already waiting for us. I also realized that in many cases, you can’t just return after facing major life changes and expect everything to be like it was in the good old days.
Of course, we met a couple of times but it was different. We mostly talked about the past and I felt like there were hardly any topics connecting us in the present, which made me quite sad. That was until I stumbled across following quote:
„some people aren’t meant to stay in your life forever“
There are people who join your life for a certain period of time and although they may play an important role then, they will eventually disappear from your life and begin a new chapter, like you will, too. It doesn’t mean that your time spent together or your friendship wasn’t real. Neither is it your or their fault that it feels different and not like it used to be when you accidently meet each other on the street, knowing that you were once so close to each other and now the only thing that you talk about is how much it rained during the last days and how summer is over.
I realized that it’s part of life and part of growing up to get to know new people in different areas of life, like job-wise or at university. Although you may have a great connection, they eventually will not stay forever. That’s why we shouldn’t take even the most normal days for granted because one day you may look back, wishing that you had appreciated the chats with your friends during school break, walking home after school with your neighbor and laughing about today’s events or even the daily morning workout including sprinting to the bus stop every morning because of your poor time management (still happens to me today) a bit more.
Anyway, I realized that every day, regardless of how average it may appear to you at the moment, it will be a memory one day, eventually even a memory that you will long for. In the words of Yoga Jones from Orange Is the New Black:
Try to look at your experience here as a mandala, Chapman. Work hard to make something as meaningful and beautiful as you can. And when you’re done, pack it in and know it was all temporary. You have to remember that. It’s all temporary.”